Resources to help you embody a sense of awake and connected wisdom
Words can mean lots of different things to different people. I write in very clear and simple language and with most words I am happy to embrace this aspect of nebulosity – to allow things to mean what they mean to you in this moment.
However, there are some words that I use very specifically and in slightly different ways to how other people normally use them. It will help you get a proper understanding of my writing if you can understand these terms as I mean them.
You may have different meanings or understanding of these words, and that’s ok, but for the sake of clarity and depth of understanding, here are my definitions.
Embodied Heart States
The embodied heart states are ways of opening to receive the world that are meta to the content of experience. They are grounded in the idea that love is felt, expressed and experienced in the body.
The capacity to feel alongside someone; shared moments of resonance on the full emotional spectrum. Really caring about something or someone in a felt way.
For The Benefit of All Beings
The meta-meta heart state that over-rides everything else and is an important sentiment of all my writing and teaching. The willingness to show up, meet experience as it is and not be a Scrooge about what you’re going to get in return, for the benefit of all beings, including yourself
Being able to accept things as they are, even when they are shitty. Opening to allow things to impact you emotionally without blaming yourself, other people or the world
The capacity to retain an open mind and attitude towards someone or something, even when you disagree with them. An alternative translation of Loving Kindness.
The capacity to make space for all of experience, without judgement or prejudice. An alternative translation of Equanimity.
A loving, connected quality of experience that can be present regardless of content i.e. one can be joyfully sad
When you are excluded or disconnected from others or the world you can bridge the gap of that disconnection through being able to laugh either at yourself or at the situation as a whole. Creating joy even when you are in a place of fundamental disconnection
Taking joy in some of the darker or more absurd aspects of life, for example swearing or sexuality
1. Felt-sense definition: Allowing all of experience to impact you
2. Objective definition: The process of giving and receiving that the entire Universe consists of; affect
A part of experience that is so alien or cut off from you that even if someone puts it right in front of you, you are incapable of recognising it
The parts of experience that feel fundamentally unbearable. Physical, mental and emotional pain that on a scale of 1 – 10 goes far beyond 11. Unimaginable from a normal state of consciousness
The incapacity to connect with experience due to encountering a shadow or blind spot and falling into hatred, fear and blame of the other
The disowned parts of experience that are too painful to be with or that you will not accept are part of yourself
The capacity to own your darkness, stand in your truth and act for the benefit of all beings, including yourself. The willingness to see and say it like it is, which looks like accepting people whole-heartedly and sometimes threatening people’s comfort zones.
Dharma should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable
A really good word for making a point and disrupting someone’s train of thought
A really good word for being honest about how bad something is and creating a sense of everyone being in it together, e.g. yeh, it’s shit
The process of connecting with aspects of personal or collective experience that you were previously closed to and integrating them into your way of being e.g. awakening to awareness, awakening the energy body, sexual awakening
There are a lots of aspects to this, but the most important one is becoming one with the Universe in a way where you no longer have any thoughts, behaviours, desires or experiences that are not explicitly for the benefit of all beings, including yourself
Supporting each other to go through the process of awakening in a collaborative way. Enjoying the process and helping each other to thrive and see the truth. Recognising that all relationships are a symbiosis and that we create each other.
The understanding that everything we experience is grounded in physical reality. Recognising that our physical and energy bodies will impact how we see, feel, think about and experience things. Knowing that awakening requires us to process trauma and integrate new parts of ourselves in our physicality as much as our mind.
1. Felt-sense definition: The sense of spaciousness, nebulosity and voidness that can arise in subjective experience – creating a greater sense of freedom of expression
2. Objective definition: The realisation that the fixed structures that the mind creates of the world are not representative of reality – nothing conceptual is fixed, the meaning of everything depends on the context in which it is seen and experienced
I don’t really use this word, but if I had to define it I would say it is the process of bringing things that you aren’t aware of into the light so that you can see and feel them clearly for what they are
The process of becoming a full, embodied expression of your true nature, e.g. for me it is embracing my full Rosa-ness, for you it is becoming your full [insert your name here]-ness
Taking a shadow or part of experience that was not awake in you and processing it through the body, heart and mind so that it becomes a healthy, natural part of your way of being. It will normally take a number of times to go through the process to really integrate the details and subtleties of a lesson or experience. Once it’s integrated it will feel very normal
Everything depends on everything else; everything is connected to everything else
1. Felt-sense definition: a sense of fundamental connectedness between the personal and collective aspects of experience
2. Objective definition: things can’t exist without their opposite, e.g. you can’t have space without solid and solid without space.
A way of opening to the world where you are able to listen to it carefully and hear the subtle notes of experience
The part of experience that is abstract, that can’t be defined in a concrete way, that is ineffable. Could also be called spirit or intuition, for example, if you prefer these terms.
The capacity to be honest and sincere and to express something that feels meaningfully true to you in this moment in a way that resonates with others