Post three of seven, in section About Practice
Awakening can be very mysterious, ineffable, and nebulous. Unlike other aspects of life, where your goals are more concrete, one part of the process of going on an awakening journey is letting go of fixed ideas and allowing yourself to be open to uncertainty, unexpected things, and ineffable qualities.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t have any sense of purpose or progress, and having a method for reflecting on practice will help keep your practice focused and meaningful.
There are a number of ways you could measure or reflect on a practice based on what it is and what is most important to you.
Lots of practices and traditions have systems for mapping progress within them, and this can be super helpful, as long as you can hold it lightly and recognise that this is not the be-all and end-all of life. Even when a practice does have a way of recognising progress, it can be useful to pop your head out of the rabbit hole to reflect on your practice from a wider viewpoint. To think about the benefits from outside the frame that you have been given.
And some practices and traditions have no methods for recognising progress or reflecting on the benefits of it; this can be a little disorienting and make you lose track of what’s important. Or mean that you get caught up in hierarchy and status as the marker of your progress.
The exercise below is an example of a way to reflect on your practice. If you can make some time and space to reflect on a practice, it will help you see what works for you, appreciate the positive changes you are experiencing, cut away the unhelpful stuff, and focus on the most meaningful things.
It’s important to answer honestly. If something isn’t working for you, it’s better to be aware of this so that you can change it.
I have split the reflections up into embodiment, heartfulness, mindfulness, and soulfulness.
Importantly, a practice or approach definitely doesn’t need to meet all these bullet points; it could be that just meeting one or two really deeply feels the most meaningful way to dedicate your practice time.
And as always it’s worth mentioning that sometimes practice makes things feel worse before it makes them feel better because it surfaces all the challenging things that you have been dissociating from or suppressing.
The purpose of doing this exercise isn’t for it to be a final arbiter of your practice, but engaging with the reflection gives you a way to access a wider and more objective perspective on what you’re doing and how it’s going.
It may also inspire some more unique reflections that are specific to you and your practice goals, which you could write down or keep in mind to reflect on.
Embodiment
My practice…
- allows me to be present with sensations more directly and gives me a more refined sensitivity to my embodied experience
- puts me in touch with my subtle body, or felt sensation beyond words and the material
- facilitates me to be more present in my life, even in challenging situations
- helps me feel safer in life and has reduced the amount of fear-based decisions that I make
- helps me process energies or traumas that are held in the body
- puts me in touch with pleasant sensations or experiences in the body
- supports me to connect with the present moment and start from where I am
- helps me act with more courage and integrity
- helps me honour and care for my body
Wholeheartedness
My practice…
- puts me in touch with feelings of love for self, other and the world
- increases or clarifies my sense of care towards self and others
- takes me out of codependence and aversion and into healthy interdependence
- allows me to feel a full range of emotions with more clarity and freedom
- relieves emotional suffering
- increases my capacity to be open to painful, challenging or dark aspects of my experience in a compassionate way
- helps me process difficult emotions or thoughts
- increases my resilience
- gives me access to joy, beauty, and other positive qualities
- helps me to feel more relaxed and open in a wider range of circumstances
- increases my capacity for honesty and sincerity from myself and others
Mindfulness
My practice…
- gives me access to open awareness
- allows me to see things with more clarity and precision
- shows me that reality is more malleable than I previously may have thought
- changes my view of life, myself or experience
- gives me a meaningful perspective on life that includes both the light and dark aspects of the world
- increases my capacity for uncertainty
- helps me stay curious in a wider range of situations
- shows me how everyone has a different perspective and worldview
- relieves or removes anxiety and mental suffering
- increases my understanding of experience and the Universe
Soulfulness
My practice…
- has created intimacy with the deepest parts of me
- helps me to know my inner world and the depths of life
- puts me in touch with the imaginal realm
- allows me to access altered states of consciousness that feel nourishing or meaningful
- allows me to lean into mystery and not knowing
- creates a richer feeling of aliveness
- encourages me to release control
- gives me capacity to own and process my shadows
- connects me with my most wholesome desires
- puts me in touch with what I find most beautiful and meaningful in life
- inspires me to be of service to others and the world and connects me to a sense of meaning and purpose
